To the Guy Who Inspired Me for Four Months and Left...

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It’s been a month (exactly a month) and I feel like a year has passed already. And up until now, I cry…whenever I remember you and your promises; wonder what happened; how easy for you to just throw away everything; think about the what if’s and what not’s; wonder what you’re up to at the moment; and miss you….just really miss you.

We were so damn perfect. We were happy. But maybe I was the only one who viewed our relationship as such because I’m pretty sure that I was the only one in the relationship. I doubt that you ever did love me. No, I’m sure that you didn't. No matter how many times I try to deny it, it’s the truth. I’ve looked at it from a hundred or a thousand different perspectives already. And you know what I am? A rebound. A stupid girl who thought that you could be the one and was even worth fighting for.

No matter how much I try to put on a strong and happy and cheerful mask to hide all the sadness that’s been building up for the past month, it just crumbles down whenever a memory of you surges through my head or when Paper Hearts by Tori Kelly plays from my iPod Touch. Every now and then I start to cry like a little girl who lost her favourite toy. Maybe I am that little girl who lost my favourite toy because I lost my first true and serious love who turned out to be not so true…on his part.

I miss your friends. I regret not having a chance to hang out with such a fun group and it saddens me that I won’t ever have that chance. But most especially, I miss you. I miss you a lot to the point that I remember you in everything I do. I miss you to the point that I want to tell you everything that has happened to my life after you left because you were the person that listens to every happy or depressing story I have to tell. I miss how happy I was and how happy we were.

But I need to move on and I swear, I really am doing my best. It’s really hard so don’t expect a lot to happen after a month. Whenever I cry, I let it all out and remember how much of an arse you are. An arse for making me believe that you loved me. An arse for making me feel like crap in the most horrifying way. An arse for everything that you did. An arse for showing me that right now, you are at your happiest while I am at my darkest. An arse for destroying me.

I will move on because you are not worth my tears and sadness. I will move on because I need to be happy again. I will move on… I just need time.

P.S. It's funny and sad how this is after my blog post entitled, "7 Things to Expect When You're in a Serious Relationship" which was about you and it clearly shows how in love I was with you..

P.P.S. It's funnier that you ended things the day after I posted that blog post

7 Things to Expect When You're in a Serious Relationship

No matter if you're just starting or you've been together for a long time, as long as you're both serious with each other... you should expect these:

1. Fights or misunderstandings

Let’s face it, this is inevitable. But even though it’s one of the worst things ever for a couple to undergo through, the most important thing is that they make up in the end. Someone needs to lower down that great wall of pride and forgive. And when I say forgive, I meant really forgive. So don’t be discouraged or whatever if you and your boyfriend fight or have a misunderstanding. That’s part of being in a relationship. A serious one.

2. Trusts

In a couple, either one or even both will have a past relationship. It’s gonna be okay if the past and your guy/gal isn’t talking anymore, but it’s gonna be a whole different scenario when the two are friends and actively talking, even. Or if there’s no ex, maybe a hot classmate or workmate.

But even so, and no matter what, trust the guy/gal when he/she looks into your eyes and assures you that you are the only one he/she loves and that past is past. The two of you can even talk it out. Trust me, I learned this the hard way and I am so not going to get jealous anymore.

3. Loyalty

Loyalty reveals itself when the person you love only looks at you no matter how hot or bulk or busty a person who passed by may be. That’s the only explanation I have for this. Really.

4. Dates & Spaces

You don’t need to meet up every freaking day and have a date all the freaking time. The two of you should enjoy and understand the need for two different types of time: “space” times and “date” times.

There will be moments when you’re both enjoying two different or similar things in two different places. Like for example, my loved one and I enjoy watching movies in the comfort of our own homes without any distraction from each other. 

Sometimes you just need time for yourself, too. Don’t let your world revolve around a person. Remember that you’re also a human being and that you have your own set of friends or likes or responsibilities or to-do’s. Besides, your loved one might feel like you’re strangling him/her.

5. Growth & Development

In a relationship, especially a serious one, there will be changes. Changes that are for the betterment of you both. Remember, communication is the key here. One must speak up if there is a problem so the other can learn and understand the need for change. This change can lead to the growth and development of their relationship.

6. No more awkward or embarrassing moments

Seriously, you start farting in front of each other and do stuff in front of the other that you thought before was embarrassing. Before, I was shy to even eat in front of my guy, but now, I eat a lot. Like really, A LOT. And he doesn’t even mind nor judge me of my appetite.

Awkward silences are hard to fill. But when you’re in a serious relationship, awkward silences doesn’t exist. The two of you can just stare at the sky or the side street for hours. For me, the explanation of this is that you find comfort in each other’s presence and that removes the awkwardness.

7. Kilig moments aren't forever there

Ramon Bautista once said that true love begins after the kilig has gone. But it doesn't actually die away. It's still there. It'll come once in awhile to spice up your love life or put a smile on your face.
Kilig moments depend on the couple, actually. It's up to them to keep it alive or leave it to die.

6 Characteristics of a Bookworm

I am a certified bookworm. Aside from baking, writing novels, singing covers, and playing, I love to read books all day and all night. Some of my family and friends of mine call me a bookworm...a big one. They don't understand how I can just stay in one place and read all day. But surprisingly, they just leave me alone about it.

So what's with being a bookworm? What's so unique about us? Well, let me tell you my opinion...

1. We have unimaginable reading speed

Reading a book for us is like we're under time pressure but we don't actually notice it. I've never noticed my speed in reading when a friend of mine exclaimed, "You're already in the middle of the book?!" And that book was only bought a day before.

Our speed in reading is like breathing, we don't actually control it. It just happens.

There are times when I get so into reading or I get sucked into the story, there are no more water breaks, no pee breaks...and then I'll realize, I've finished the whole damn book in a day.
Speed is unimaginable for us.

2. We do everything just to read something

Many readers out there have a lot of money to buy themselves the book that they want. Some save their allowance so that they can buy that new book of their favourite authour. Some save so they can buy that newly-released sequel of a series. But for other bookworms who doesn't have the luxury to buy themselves books? Well, they do everything.
I am part of those bookworms who does everything.
So what if I don't have the money to buy books? What if I can't save enough money because of all the things needed for school? I had two solutions:

A. Download an app that lets you read e-books in your tablet 
I downloaded an app called "Stanza" in my iTouch before. And I placed there every book I do not have money to buy. Every day until midnight, I read and read and read non-stop. Even if there's a class, I do my best to hide the thing. I was THAT addicted. Good thing my iTouch is small, so professors can't see them.
The best thing about Stanza is you can modify it to the type of reading you like. There's even a night mode! But the downside in reading books in tablets or phones continuously? GLASSES.
And this product of continuous reading in tablets led me to solution B:

B. Buy a Kindle (or any gadget with an anti-glare and electronic ink)
For me, my all-time dream was to have a Kindle. And on my birthday, I asked my brother to buy me one. And he did. So instead of reading non-stop in my iTouch, I read non-stop in my Kindle with no risk of hurting my eyes or even damaging it.
Kindle makes things a lot easier. So go buy that, if you want.


3. We are very protective of our books

One thing bookworms hate? Books gone bad. Sure, we love the smell of new or old yellow-coloured books. But we hate...CERTAINLY hate tears or crumpled papers. Or covers that got folded. We became obsessive compulsive about it. The mere sight of it makes us anxious.
So to all fellow people who will borrow our books, beware of the lion hidden inside us.


4. We become patient
At times, we become patient. We can wait in one place for hours just as long as there is a book placed on our hands. We can wait inside a coffee shop or in a bookstore for hours.
Whenever I meet up with my high school friend, I'll always be the first one to arrive because of our schedules. So I wait for her for hours in a coffee shop in a mall. I always bring out my Kindle, put on my earphones, and lose myself in the book. My friend will arrive 4-5 hours later and I didn't even notice the time pass by.

5. We are imaginative...very imaginative
We get so caught up in a book that sometimes we believe that it's real and it's happening to us. Okay, not sometimes...always.
Whenever we read, the surroundings change and we imagine we're either the lead or we're together with the lead character. Our surroundings changes from Panem to Hogwarts to Chicago to New York in clothes of the character being narrated.

6. We wish that the stories we read are real
The novels we read tend to give us our fantasies. We wish everything is real. I once believed that a Hogwarts letter will arrive sooner or later. I once wished that Divergents were real and I was one of them. 
We sometimes wish so hard that we mix it with reality. We usually wish that the fictional characters of novels were real. And we look for specific characteristics in every man we meet or date.



I am a bookworm. And I am proud to be one.

A Letter from Scarlett ("Checklist")

Dear Women of Earth,

We all have ideal men, do you not agree? We have lists of what our future boyfriends should look like and act like. Don't deny it, you made that list. You either wrote it on a scratch paper or at the back of your notebook.

I had a list before. My ideal man would be: tall, dark, and handsome. He'd be smokin' hot and would dress normally (and when I say normally, I mean not better than me). He'd be a gentleman but can also be such a bad ass (but not that much). He'd kiss me on my forehead whenever I get so upset because he knows it can calm me down. He'd be caring, understanding, and thoughtful. He'd remember all the small details I'd say. He'd be the sweetest man alive, to the point that I might even get diabetes. He'd listen to my problems. He doesn't have to solve it, just listening will help subside it. He'd be smart and witty and funny. He'd be creative and will always be such a surprise. He'd get me and understand me before, during, and after my period.

My list goes on and on and on....

But the list I made is nothing. That list that you've stowed away in places where no one can ever read? That list is useless. It really is...when you are in love.

I am in love. And the person I love doesn't have all the qualities and characteristics in my checklist but he has more to show/give. And I love him still in all ways possible because he is himself. That list will just be a list of the ideal man in our imagination. And no such man exists with such perfection. A man isn't perfect but he can be perfect for you.

When you're in love, you'll be all like, "Forget that list. I love him and he's perfect for me."

Sincerely,

Scarlett Turner

A Letter from Scarlett ("Paasa")

Dear Special Someone,

I do not have any other way to open up my terribly sad feelings. Telling my best friend isn't enough (but she has made me feel better in a way no one can). And telling you is completely impossible. My life was complicated even before you came...but everything changed when I met you and fell for you. It made my life more complicated and difficult. So instead of telling you whatever there is to tell, I'm gonna write it here...knowing that you can never read it.

It started with a simple crush. But later on, there are moments when your hand will find mine and intertwine. I felt a spark. An instant feeling that my stomach was filled with butterflies. I ignored it, thought that maybe it was just a small "something". But it happened no matter what. I tried to avoid you. But there's like magnet between us. But maybe it just happened to me. One-sided sparks, I guess. Then..I know deep in my heart that I like you. A lot. Even thought there's too much pain alongside this feeling.

I'm being the exact definition of a "martyr in love." Or in my case... in like. I'm not in love with you. I am not gonna be stupid enough to be in love with a person who won't love me back.

It's been eight months. And I've done everything to not like you and not expect from you. But even after you've broken up with that girl, or even after I've had a crush on different guys (hoping to move on from you), the magnet is still there. Our hands will always intertwine. Our hands will always be sweet with each other. But I guess our supposed-to-be love story only applies to our hands. And I guess that magnet applies to our hands.

I did my best to comfort you when the girl broke up with you. And you look fine now. Of course, there will always be moments that you get to ask questions regarding her or you'll feel sad, but that's it. You're still fine. We hung out one time and watched a movie the next time. We held hands in the theater. I don't know how it happened, but you took my hand and we stayed like that. I thought it'll end there. But no. We held hands, even outside the theater.

After that, we talked. It's the first time we talked about all this. It's been eight months, and we just talk about this now. My best friend told you to not do anything that will get my hopes up. But I guess those words didn't sink into your thick skin. You still got my hopes up. I thought that there's still "something" between us. But no, you said, "I'm not getting your hopes up." But the hell does that mean? You hold my hand and you tell me to not expect anything? Isn't that a little stupid? So I asked you, "If you're not getting my hopes up, then what are you doing?" Your answer was the best... "I'm being nice."

That was nice? Really? Wow, so all of my guy friends aren't? My two guy best friends doesn't even hold my hand. Are you fucking crazy?

What you said was also kind of funny, "Don't expect." You lost your right to say that to me whenever you hold my hand.

We ended our conversation there. Because I have nothing more to say. I don't like to talk about it further because it is useless. Nothing can get past that thick skull of yours. I left you then and there and you ran after me. When you called, you only asked where I was going and was expecting a good bye.

I am not angry. I am merely pissed, sad, and broken. Thank you for everything. Now I know that I can't trust your "niceness".

Sincerely,

Stranger from another block

5 Reasons Why One Direction Should Not Be Banned from the Philippines

There has been rumours that 1D will be banned from the Philippines because unfortunately, two members of the boy band was caught smoking marijuana. CBCP officer wanted to ban them and when asked about the issue, he said, "Do not lead the youth in the wrong direction...Why admit poisonous influences? There is enough poison in our society. Parents should stop their children from buying the expensive concert tickets of substance abuse addicts."

Well, CBCP Officer, I'll give you 5 reasons why they shouldn't be banned. 

1. Jesus (I'm sorry if I am including Him) will forgive 1D for their actions

Isn't there are a saying "WHAT WOULD JESUS DO"? CBCP Officer, banning the boy band won't be the first action of Jesus. He'd forgive them. The actions of these young men isn't entirely evil.

If you guys want to practice what you preach, start with this.

2. They're very freaking nice/charitable/kind/whatever nice word

You must've forgotten how GOOD they are...

3. How come other marijuana-users got to visit/tour the Philippines?

Huh, Bruno Mars got away from using cocaine (which is worse than Marijuana) but you're gonna ban 1D? Isn't that a little bit....stupid? Justin Bieber was here before right? He got to visit the Philippines even though he was one hell of an out-of-control teenager.

Even influential people has tried the greens! Obama, Oprah, Clinton, Clooney, Gates, Gaga, Brad Pitt, Jolie, et cetera.

So what's next? You're gonna ban movies with scenes where our favourite actors or actresses smoke marijuana? That's hilarious and pathetic.

Remember, Nicotine is far worse than Marijuana.

4. Millions of fans will be brokenhearted

Millions of fans who look up to One Direction will be brokenhearted. They stayed in MoA (Mall of Asia) overnight just so they can get tickets. Their efforts will be wasted. Isn't that a little cruel? Those girls wanted to see One Direction so much. They saved up their money exactly for this event (I know because my best friend and I saved our money with the hopes that 1D will eventually tour our country).

Cruel...just...cruel!

5. They have saved millions of lives

They have, really. But not just through Charity, but also through their music and actions and music videos.

One Direction made me smile and laugh when I am sure no one could. They have a direct line to my funny bone. And don't get me started with their songs! Their songs has touched my heart and saved me (yes, they did).

Although their songs aren't directed to me: They made me feel beautiful; they made me feel that my flaws can be loved; they made me feel cheerful; and whenever I'm heartbroken, there's a perfect song to match it.

One Direction has changed my life and changed other Filipino Directioners, too. Banning them will crush us. If you care for us, think this through. No, wait...Don't think this through because there's nothing to think about. ONE DIRECTIONS SHOULD NOT AND CANNOT BE BANNED.

If you're so worried about us, teenagers, try to fix the government first or help the poor or focus on 

education.

#Cut4NoOne

News about two members of One Direction smoking some green has spread like fire. A local news channel here in the Philippines even called them Bad Direction (I disagree, you arse).

What's worse than being called "Bad Direction"? Well, it's that some Directioners have started to cut themselves and hashtagged #CutFor1D because of smoking pot.

Tell me, Directioners, why cut? Why cut that perfectly good skin for someone who smoked marijuana?

Before, there was this issue of Zayn smoking cigarettes. Did you guys cut for Zayn, too, and hashtagged #CutForZaynMalik? No, you were strong. You stayed positive for him so you could show your support and encouragement in making him stop. You believed in him and didn't turn your backs to him.

What's the deal now? Did you know that Nicotine (found in cigarettes) are worse than Marijuana? Marijuana can even be considered as medicinal and non-addicting.

They are young men, for crying out loud. There will be a phase in their lives that they may try different things and even learn from it. Put down those blades and stay positive for them.